You Don’t Have to Be Stuck…
You don’t have to be stuck in a bad mood, learn to quickly turn a bad day around. In fact, positive psychology, the scientific study of what makes a human happy, has new findings that happiness comes from within.
This means we are responsible for our own happiness. The realization that we are responsible for how we feel can be daunting and at times, not helpful when we are down.
So instead of bombarding you with why you are the way you are, we will jump right to the ways that you can turn your own crappie day into something more bearable.
Benefits of Self-Awareness on Your Day
Even I find myself in the occasional predicament of a lousy day. I find myself aware of it (benefit of self-awareness) and understand what I must do to change it. Below are a few tips that will be helpful when you need to turn your day around. Note some will not work for all, but you must decide for yourself which ones to begin with and start there.
If you are in a lousy mood, chances are you are only semi-body aware. That means you are aware you are not your best but don’t know why. If you know why you are in a bad mood, then just jump right into the tips and start. However, if you are not always aware of why you feel the way you feel see below and find the cause of your bad mood.
So How Do You Do it?
The way you turn a bad day around is the same way you turn a terrible life around. You work on creating a string to hold onto to increase your positivity and ride it to a new feeling.
To find the start of that string, let’s begin with self-awareness. Our bodies do not do well with feelings such as excitement and dread. These feelings can often be the main culprits in a “bad day.” I say that in quotations because a bad day is really in our heads. How do I know that? I know that because I used to think and have “Bad Days” almost every day. I would wake up, and immediately, my day was for some obscure reason, “Bad.” I prayed that my day would somehow turn around but to no avail.
It did not dawn on me that it was I who created my bad mood, simply because I was so accustomed to thinking that way. It was not until I started to become more self-aware that I began to spot the false-negative pattern in my life. But the good news, once I began to become self-aware, I also began to be able to let go of those self-made bad moods. Now my day is quickly turned around just as easily as I can breath. That is the power of mindfulness and self-awareness.
14 TIPS TO TURN A BAD DAY AROUND
Fallow all or just one to practice bringing awareness to your day and change your mood. The more you practice catching yourself in a gnarly attitude and re-routing your mental state, the easier it will be for you to go around those so-called “Bad Days.” If it takes you a while to change yourself, don’t think of failure, just think of new beginnings if you do not get it the first few times. Just keep at it, you will soon be a self-aware-good-day expert. Go get it, get that good day.
TIP ONE: WRITE IT OUT
Write down what is bothering or what you might think is bothering you. If you can’t identify it, slow down a little bit and try to think about your body and mind.
Here are some questions that might help:
- What are you finding yourself thinking about?
- What are your feelings trying to avoid?
- Is your mind Distracted, what is causing that distraction?
- Are you having a disagreement with someone?
- Any activities coming up? (Such as Planning trip or my something big in your schedule.)
- Do You feel So far behind?
Once you practice identifying the emotion and letting it go and you still need more help fallow all or one of the tips below.
TIP TWO: LET IT GO
Once you identify your emotional state, practice letting go. This step is best to do when you are alone, such as in your car, bed, or shower.
Pick an emotion, like anger, bring that feeling forward. Be with anger for a moment, feel that tension, now let it go.
Pretend it’s a mask that you are holding with your face, and let it drop to the ground.
Now practice with fear, judgment, frustration, and sadness. This practice will help you to disconnect from emotional states that drain you.
*This is my favorite tip because you are in control, you get to practice taking your day back by cheer awareness. This process is called disconnection or desensitization (if you are more psychologically inclined).
Learn more on Emotional Regulation: Emotional Exercises to Stop Stress.
TIP THREE: HAVE AN ATTACK PLAN
Sometimes having a lot to do and not knowing where to start can make your day feel overwhelming. By creating an attack plan, you can see what needs to be done and thus decrease your anxiety.
The easy solution for that is to write things down:
- Do a mini Audit of where you are and compare it to where you need to be.
- Take notes on a future task and write down what you need to do and schedule anything you can do now.
- Do what you can do now and let go of what you can’t. Learning to let go of what you can’t do anything about is really important.
Read how to do A Life Audit.
TIP FOUR: GET PHYSICAL
Do something physical to decrease your anxiety. Go on a run, a walk, anything that allows oxygen into your brain and helps you reset stress. Nature’s natural energy has been shown to reset our own vibrations. Even just working outside in your yard (as long as you are not working under electrical wiring or some high energy producing source)
is excellent. I love nature walks, the sounds, the clean air it all makes me feel connected in the right way.
TIP FIVE: TALK TO A FRIEND
Processing what is wrong or what is right can help get you to let go and re-focus on your day. Friends are great distractions and always make life much more alive and full. Don’t hesitate to call a friend and go for a coffee to help you connect and clear your head.
It’s in those relationships that we often find joy and comradery, connectedness helps heal and ground you. Slight warning, make sure its a friend that lifts your mood. If a friend is an energy vampire, you might not feel like you got anything processed.
TIP SIX: MEDITATE
Make a meditation practice a priority. All the benefits of meditation can help regulate your anxiety, feelings of anger, sadness, or any other emotional disturbance.
Please keep meditating for longer than one to two months, it takes that long to see changes to your brain (changes that include controlled emotional responses like, rational thinking, intentional speaking, less fearfulness, body awareness, and empathy). It took me six months to be more meditative, not 21 days.
Note: I don’t like it when self-help people say that it takes 21 days to see change. If you are a deep thinker or have sensory powers (sensory issues wink, wink) it will take you closer to six months to see permanent change. But it’s beyond worth it, I urge you to stick to it.
TIP SEVEN: CLEAN YOUR EXTRA ENERGY
Energy is energy, it can be felt throughout the body in the form of anxiety.
Concentrate on that energy that is loose around you, and pick an object or the ground and touch it, feel the energy leaving your body.
Now imagine new healing energy coming into your body from the top of your head. With that, I want you to inhale deeply and exhale slowly.
Repeat this at least five times. This exercise works because we are using different senses to relax our mind and invite the energy to heal instead of hurt.
TIP EIGHT: DO SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE ELSE
Grace can then fill your mood with satisfaction and peace instead of despair or anger. It really is great to feel good for helping another person, it decreases the focus on the ego. It’s humbling to let yourself think of someone else, constant focus on you can be harmful.
*After I went into my last and final depression (Read How I healed my Depression Here) I remember how everything I did was with a constant narrator in my head, and then I would focus on my own brain. My brain would think and then think some more. All that thinking ended up making me paranoid about thought, I was paranoid of my own deep thinking. I felt like I would never be able to let them go and would die of sheer pain-of-thought. Don’t go in that direction, meditate and let your inner ego go.
TIP NINE: START JOURNALING
A physical form of energy release is found in writing. When you write your feelings away, you transfer emotional baggage onto a physical visual form. Now, if you want to increase its effectiveness, crumble the newly written words (also you can safely burn them). Let that energy leave your body as you write and then dispose of the paper in whatever manner you choose. This works well for visual learners.
TIP TEN: TAKE A SHOWER
Showers are fantastic for anyone who has sensory issues. The warm water falling around you feels like a blanket, warm, and calming.
When you are in the shower, imagine your worries coming from the center of your body. Then picture the problems being pushed to the outside of you and onto your skin. Once the worries are on your skin, then watch or feel the water flooding them away.
TIP ELEVEN: DRINK SOME TEA
Having something warm and calming like chamomile tea or lavender tea can help decrease anxiety by soothing. My favorite is camomille vanilla combination,
delicious. As you hold the tea, think of its warmth, smell, and feel the cup with your hands. Remember to clear your brain of any though as you drink your tea.
TIP TWELVE: EAT SOMETHING
I should have started with this one, some people forget to eat or are prone to low sugar levels.
I get shaky if I don’t eat for a while or if I have coffee and don’t eat. Eat an apple or something with fiber to help you regulate your sugar level.
(This is just light suggestions if it’s a persistent problem you need to see your Doctor).
TIP THIRTEEN: WATCH A FUNNY, SILLY MOVIE
Watching something to lighten the mood helps you take the mind of your own despair or issues. Choose videos that don’t contain serious notes and can help you release tension by laughing. Some of my favorite movies are;
- Legally Blond
- Mighty Python
- Pitch Perfect
- Napoleon Dynamite
- Bridget Jone’s Diary
- The Hangover
- Office Space
TIP FOURTEEN: LISTEN
Listen to calming sounds or no sounds for 2-4 minutes. Science states that humans are living in an ever-increasing noise polluted environment. Sound can desensitize us to noise (which can leave us stressed) and even
Bird sounds are some of the most calming sounds you can listen to, it is said that the sound of chirping birds lets our minds know all is well. That is true, just think about what kind of emotion comes up when you hear birds and all of a sudden birds fly away, fear right? So when you listen to birds happily chirping, you know everything is all right.
Another Sound tip is using noise-canceling headphones for a while. Yes, they look obviously large and unsightly, but I love how they calm my nerves by muffling noise around me. It’s pure bliss, try it.
Although I just told you to listen to calm, the opposite can also be helpful. Listening to favorite mood-lifting music can also help with changing your outlook. Here is why Listening to Music helps lift the spirits, music is an audible energy source, to become angrier you listen to angry music, to feel calmer you listen to gentle, soothing music. Your vibrational energy will match the music you feed your ears. So try feel-good music and sing at the top of your lungs.
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So remember you can use self-awareness to become in tune with your body and get to the root of what could be causing your bad mood.
Use the tips like writing thins down, do a quick to-do, exercise, talk to someone, meditate, let extra energy go, do a good deed, listen to music, journal, shower, drink tea, or watch a funny movie. Let go of that mood and turn your day around.
PLEASE practice, it’s the only way to get better at mastering yourself.
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