Attract What You Want!

What is an Affirmation?

Affirmations are statements of self-empowerment and positive thinking that you make to yourself through writing, speaking, hearing and feeling, they help attract what you want. These self-empowering repeated thoughts change the way we perceive ourselves. By repeating positive statements you attract abundance, joy, love, happiness and other empowering human conditions. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne’s brought attention to the “power of attraction”, or the thought that you attract what you feel, believe and repeat in your brain. In science this process or idea NLP, or Neurolinguistic Programing and Neuro Associative Conditioning, NAC. What ever you want to call it, its important that you become aware of the way you speak to yourself.

Why You need to use them?

It’s believed that about 70% of our thinking is negative. A horrible thought if your think about it. The reason for this negative thinking is evolutionary. If you stay safe and don’t have an urge to explore or move from your spot of comfort then you get to survive. Thus, evolution is causing our brains to use every trick to stop us from seeking a different reality. So, find a way to escape this safety/comfort mind game, and live your grandest life imaginable. We think in Affirmations all day and night, they are negative or positive. So why not make them positive and elevate our lives?

Curious what kind of automatic thoughts pop into your head? Take this quiz by LifeSparkWeekly.

How do they work?

Positive statements (Affirmations) are said daily. Generally they are simple phrases that you repeat to yourself either out loud or in your head. It is best if you hear them out loud. They are believable, and short. Begin with small reinforcing statements like: “I enjoy a calm environment.“I am a funny person”. “I have people who love me”. These are simple, non-discriminating phrases that you will not try to fight in your own mind.

Make time each day, morning time seems the best time, more than likely because you are more rested and ready for your day. If you have a commute either by yourself, kids, or a coworker, bring along a CD or podcast with simple positive statement. Your family or friends will benefit from listening as well. It’s beneficial for anybody to learn kindness through self-talk, or affirmations.

Make it part of your daily habit to say positive phrases to yourself. The more you say, or write them the easier it gets to believe them.

Here is what to watch for:

1. Don’t make them so unbelievable that you immediately start feeling self-doubt.
2. Keep them short so it feels like a repetition.
3. Make them relivant to your life, such as, if you are a nurse say something like “I will calmly respond to change”.
4. Add feelings to the statements. If you are repeating, I am loved, make sure you add a loving feeling with that statement.

Types of Affirmations

There are as many variations to affirmations as there are humans. Any possible combination and situation you can image, you can create an affirmation to go along with it. You should tailor your affirmations to reflect your goals/wishes.  Here are a few main topic affirmations.

Money: Including Affirmations about making money, attracting abundance, or creating opportunity for a lucrative life.

Love: Having a loving relationship, making time for our loved ones, giving more love to those around us, or ourselves.

Wellness: Working on our health by exercising, eating well, feeling calm, or mentally fit.

Joy: Creating a thankful attitude that attracts more of the life we want. Bringing awareness to everyday can create a feeling of life satisfaction.

Success: Making our ideal life by working on our self-esteem so we can let go of sabotaging self-doubt.

But they aren’t working?

First, the biggest cause I have found for an affirmation not working it that you do not believe it. However you can change this by saying “Why?” statements instead. “Why?” statements curve your minds internal negative hold. Second, it’s easier to believe something when you don’t question it. So if you begin with a question, you are already done with negations.

Here are some examples, ask yourself questions like:

1. “Why do I have loving family that loves me?

2. “Why am I always on time to work?”

3. “Why Do I enjoy having a clean home?”

4.  “Why do I stay calm when my children complain?”

5. “Why am I being promoted so quickly at my job?”

One of the benefits of a “Why”question is that it pre-programs you to add feeling to the Affirmations. Notice the feeling you get when you repeat one of the above questions. Are you feeling the emotions your mind puts to this questions? Do you feel joy, calmness, and satisfaction? All this emotions can catapult your success with Affirmations.

So how long before I see results?

You have been making negative statements to yourself your entire life. Please have patients with yourself. Calm that need for instant gratification. The power of attraction does not state how fast your wishes are granted for a reason. In my belief all its saying is that we control how we think, and if we say negative things in our heads, we will only have negative things to show for it. However, if we move to a positive mindset we can achieve those things we wish for.

Remember this; wishes turn to goals, goals to action and actions to reality. You are creating your inner most desires because you attract what you think. Know that you deserve a wonderful life full of realities and adventure. You are worthy!

If you want to learn see more affirmations check out Louise Hay’s amazing affirmations and quotes.

Citation:

Affirmations New Age. (2018). Retrieved from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affirmations_(New_Age)

Raghunathan, Raj, Ph.D. (2013, October 10). How negative is your mental chatter? Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sapient-nature/201310/how-negative-is-your-mental-chatter

Hurst, Katherine. (2018). Positive daily affirmations. Retrieved from http://www.thelawofattraction.com/positive-daily-affirmations/

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Lucia Stakkestad

Lucia Stakkestad is an emotional regulation teacher with over a decade of experience in helping individuals gain insight into their feelings and learn methods to handle their emotions more effectively. Not only does she specialize in emotional regulation, but she also teaches evidence-based mindfulness practices that can help you reduce stress and anxiety, build healthier relationships and develop self-awareness. With her guidance, you will gain a better understanding of your mindset, emotions and mindfulness and learn how to make positive transformational changes in your life.

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