Just like you are able to exercise your body, you can exercise your mind to stop stress. What do I mean? Have you ever felt an emotional state taking over while having a conversation with another person?
The feeling of anger, fear, judgment, frustration, or sadness can take hold of you and make life more stressful. This can end up leaving you drained. But there is a way to exercise your emotional state so that you are better able to dis-engage from whatever emotion is keeping you truncated and spent.
Identify the Emotion
Having trouble identifying your emotion? Here is a fun and familiar chart of the main emotions and how they might be broken down into more specific emotions. What’s Cookin’Sister’s chart is cool and easy to read.
Emotions can be hard to identify if you have practiced running away from them more than confronting them. Ahem, that is me, I used to identify as strong and capable. I was not realizing I was actually running away from my feelings instead of figuring out the hidden message behind them. Figuring out what your feelings say, will be the greatest self-development preactice you can do for yourself. You see being able to identify what your emotions are saying helps you identify trauma. When you identify why your respond to situations in the way you do, you can then go in and heal yourself at the core of your trauma.
Trauma is the enemy of all of us humans. We develop trauma through just about every type of human experience. The difference is some of us have such Traumatic childhoods that it effects our interaction with life and others negatively. We don’t reach our potential when in a trauma state. Learn to understand your emotions so you can figure out where you need to heal trauma.
After you have identified your most familiar feelings continue down below and practice how to release them, this is called emotional regulation. Emotional regulation is the ability to calm your body after being confronted with stressful situations.
Emotional Exercise Techniques
Practice these techniques to improve your ability to disconnect from your own emotional dependence.
Step One:Be Aware of Your Own Emotions
You can improve your ability to sense when you are being emotional by bringing your awareness back to you. Ask yourself, am I angry right now? Am I sad? Or frustrated?
After bringing focus back to you for about a week you will see a remarkable change to your innate sense of self and how you react to your environment. This is called self awareness.
Take a quick quiz and find out if you are in-tune with yourself. How self aware are you ?( its a BuzzFeed quiz by Natalya Lobanoba).
What Percent Self Aware are you?
Step Two: Practice Letting Go
Once you are better able to quickly identify your emotional states, practice letting go. This step is best to do when you are alone, such as in your car, bed, or shower.
Pick an emotion, like anger, bring that feeling forward. Be with anger for a moment, feel that tension, now let it go. Pretend it’s a mask that you are holding with your face, and let it drop to the ground.
Now practice with fear, judgment, frustration, and sadness. This practice will help you to disconnect from emotional states that drain you.
Step Three: Practice
Now its time to take your practice to the next level. While having a conversation with a friend or colleague and you find yourself having an emotional pull, put that mask up and then drop it, the mask by now represents your emotions.
When you drop it you let go of that emotion. Now take a deep breath, hold it for a second and let it go…
After a month of this kind of emotional exercising you will be able to easily identify an emotion and calm your body before it can take over.
When you practice this on a consistent basis you will notice an increase in energy and mental wellbeing. That is what naturally happens when you control your mind before it controls you.
What is Self Love and find out if you are practicing it.
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