Why Self-Esteem Can Be Improved With Self-Compassion
Hidden Low Self-Esteem
I never thought I had a major problem with self-esteem. However, I was never overly self-confident either. Since it was never a part of me I questioned it took me a long time to realize that some of my problems might be due to low self-esteem.
How did I a typical seemingly confident person not realized that a big part of her self-sabotaging problems stemmed from low confidence?
It was for the same reason that a lot of people go years with success issues, self-love issues, or wrong relationship issues. Definitely, it’s because you often forget to sit quietly and really get to the root of what you are believing about yourself.
Behind your actions, there is this quiet voice that controls you. Namely, it controls what you succeed at or what you allow yourself to believe about you. Thus, our inner voice is there quietly steering, and you don’t even know it.
Up to this point, I thought I was a positive person until I sat one day wondering why nothing ever went my way. I then realized that after every out loud encouragement I was following it with a quiet internal feeling of “yeah right, no I can’t.” In short, it was such a quiet background feeling that I wasn’t even aware I was doing it.
Catching Myself Being Negative
These background feelings where constant in my life, no wonder I was not getting ahead. Besides, who would with such a negative weight? I then began to catch myself every time I would get one of those feelings and corrected it, not with a word but with a feeling. As a result, every time I would catch myself being negative I would replace it with a kind gentle encouraging feeling. You see, you have to learn to recognize the quiet negative voice inside so it can’t sabotage your work.
This disarming of my old ways took me a long time, but that was because I did not realize how deep my negativity was. Just like I always had assumed I was a positive person because I would always push past and encourage myself to do things and look at life with a can-do attitude.
Many people do things to work on their self-esteem, but that will not produce change if your framework is negative. With this in mind, to change the cause of your low self-esteem you have to recognize the negative self-talk.
Another name most often associated with self-talk is self-love. In a way, self-compassion is self-love. One and the same, to love you as you are you must have compassion for you. To sum up, compassion is the ability to quiet that negativity in the background. The negativity that can look like negative feelings, or even negative self-talk. altogether, when you stop judging yourself is when you start to live freely. Subsequently, there are ways to attain self-compassion, here are some to help release that negative self-talk that.

Below are Seven Methods for Self-Compassion: Learn them One at a time or All at the same time for maximum self-esteem changes.
Conclusion
Finally, the root of low self-esteem is judgment, work on your self-esteem through compassion and stop your self-judgment. Especially, make sure you learn to recognize quiet background negativity, becoming aware of it can help you disarm it so you can succeed.
Compassion heals the internal voice that keeps you down with its negativity. Use the following tips to change it; Learn how to speak to yourself, disarm emotions, face your insecurities, rewire your brain, disarm your fears, use grace, use compassionate self-talk, give to others, and surround yourself with like-minded people.
Try these nine methods to help you let go of that self-judgment that keeps your self-esteem low, and be more compassionate and forgiving to yourself.
In summary, rebuilding my self-esteem took a while, but it was worth it. Imagine being able to lose the fear! What would you do without fear?
Self-esteem is not about finding the lion inside you, but allowing what is there to exist and flourish so you can conquer your dreams.
Author’s Note:
It takes work and dedication to change the things you want to change. Practice makes easier, but consistency makes better.
Public speaking used to make me cringe, if I had to stand in front of others I would begin to tremble.
Now I am very calm about most things. But, it doesn’t mean I am lifeless, on the contrary, my pep for life increased and I stand up for myself more. I just happen to do it with a lighter beat.
So, don’t be hard on yourself, you can change and be what you envision yourself being. Self-confidence is about being compassionate and not judging yourself. Accept the things that are not working and being willing to work on them.
There is a reason you felt the need to visit a site like mine, you are seeking to change those things that stop you from achieving more. Stay a while, read some articles, and be okay with changing things that you need to change. Change is good, growth is a must.
Hugs,
Luci
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